I haven't thought about feelings as a goal, but I take comfort in knowing that such successful women don't set long term goals. I've always hated the idea of 5 and 10 year plans. I'm curious to try your approach to goal setting!
Wow. I am so inspired by this piece! The nuance, the detail, the care you put into creating such specific, well-intentioned goals. THIS is actually the point when we try to make goals….getting to the root, the feeling! Thank you!
Loved this! I do a word for the year every year and my word this year is Ease (after last year’s word, Brave, ended up being rather too apt!) love the idea of highlighting specific feelings though - I’m going to sit down tonight and jot some down 😊
This is so cleansing, even though I also have non-emotion-based goals for 2025. I realize I move my body, whether through weightlifting, yoga, or ballet, to ensure I have a joy-filled experience in my daily life and really love the Garten/Oprah mindset of doing the best everyday. Some days call for rest and that should be given 100% too. This line dragged me - "Like many driven, ambitious people, I believed my feelings were a pesky inconvenience I needed to control to achieve my ideal life." Whew.
Thanks so much for reading, Rachel! I basically spent the first half of my life convinced that feelings were to be completely ignored and the only thing that mattered was “thinking.” Paying attention to my body and how it felt, as well as the tiny voice in my head telling me what’s really most important, is an ongoing project!
I haven't thought about the feelings first approach, but it makes so much sense. I love your content and writing style and am confident that you will publish a book someday! In the meantime, thanks for sharing your ideas here. They make my life happier! (Goal = happiness, Mini-step = read more Amelia Wilson)
Lisa, thank you! I can’t tell you how happy it makes me to hear that! I’m adding your comment to my list of nice things people have said to me! Here’s to a wonderful 2025! xo
I find the best feelings all stem from unconditional love. You wouldn’t believe some of the people I love unconditionally. Then again love can be tough sometimes.
I haven't thought about feelings as a goal, but I take comfort in knowing that such successful women don't set long term goals. I've always hated the idea of 5 and 10 year plans. I'm curious to try your approach to goal setting!
It's working for me, so far!
Wow. I am so inspired by this piece! The nuance, the detail, the care you put into creating such specific, well-intentioned goals. THIS is actually the point when we try to make goals….getting to the root, the feeling! Thank you!
I'm so glad you like this idea, Chelsea! Making the list was one thing, following through is another, for me at least!
Isn’t that the truth?! Always so much easier said than done. But we try. And trying matters.
Loved this! I do a word for the year every year and my word this year is Ease (after last year’s word, Brave, ended up being rather too apt!) love the idea of highlighting specific feelings though - I’m going to sit down tonight and jot some down 😊
Ease is permanently on the list of things I want to feel!
This raised for me enjoy the journey not just the destination - good reminder!
exactly - I just find it extremely hard to do this in practice, so of course, had to create a rule!
Subscribe to PauseDaEditor on YouTube please it is better then my mothers scribbles
it’s equally as great ;)
love you, Teddy!
Love the feelings first approach! I'm a little late in doing up my 2025 goals but I'll be keeping this approach in mind.
Thanks for reading Simran, and I hope this approach is helpful to you!
Yes to emotional responses. I love this idea!
oh yay, so glad you like the idea!
This is so cleansing, even though I also have non-emotion-based goals for 2025. I realize I move my body, whether through weightlifting, yoga, or ballet, to ensure I have a joy-filled experience in my daily life and really love the Garten/Oprah mindset of doing the best everyday. Some days call for rest and that should be given 100% too. This line dragged me - "Like many driven, ambitious people, I believed my feelings were a pesky inconvenience I needed to control to achieve my ideal life." Whew.
Thanks so much for reading, Rachel! I basically spent the first half of my life convinced that feelings were to be completely ignored and the only thing that mattered was “thinking.” Paying attention to my body and how it felt, as well as the tiny voice in my head telling me what’s really most important, is an ongoing project!
Very relatable! Yay for progress and growth.
Love this. I’m so skeptical of any goal that is dependent on other people (getting published etc.)
Agreed! Especially when it's subjective!
Love the logo!
Yay! More to come...😉
I haven't thought about the feelings first approach, but it makes so much sense. I love your content and writing style and am confident that you will publish a book someday! In the meantime, thanks for sharing your ideas here. They make my life happier! (Goal = happiness, Mini-step = read more Amelia Wilson)
Well you just made my day! Thank you for reading and I hope to continue making you happier! That's really my biggest goal. ❤️
This just may be my favorite goal-related post I've read on Substack since the new year...brilliant + simple!
Always a great read. I look forward to your post every week. It' like a comforting ritual.
Lisa, thank you! I can’t tell you how happy it makes me to hear that! I’m adding your comment to my list of nice things people have said to me! Here’s to a wonderful 2025! xo
I find the best feelings all stem from unconditional love. You wouldn’t believe some of the people I love unconditionally. Then again love can be tough sometimes.
That is such a lovely sentiment, Gary. Thank you so much for reading.
You’re welcome
This is brilliant and such a comfort, too. I am copying you right down the line!!
Thank you, Isabel! Here’s to a 2025 filled with all the good feelings, and less dissatisfaction and wanting. xo Amelia
Taking the Ina/Oprah approach? Love 👏 this 👏 for 👏 you!!
Can't go wrong following Ina/Oprah! 😉
Truer words, never spoken.
PS: I adore the new logo! 😍
Thanks! New banner and more to come!
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